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Stop Eating Your Feelings Sis!

By September 17, 2020May 25th, 2021Holistic / Alternative Health

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Today’s Education Nation post was written by Dr. Ajita M. Robinson, a Grief and Trauma therapist, Bestselling Author, International Speaker, and Income Strategist. She has been seen in places such as Wall Street Journal, Huffpost, Washington Post, Business Insider, Bustle and Therapy for Black Girls. We are blessed to have her guest author for our blog!  Dr. Ajita will also be joining us in a FB Live this Sunday, September 20th, make sure you join us!

The Intersection of Mental Health and Physical Health
by Dr. Ajita Robinson

Our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are connected. We often view our health as biological (heart, organs, weight), when in reality our health includes our:

  1. physical,
  2. biological,
  3. emotional,
  4. mental and
  5. spiritual domains.

These aspects of health can enhance or inhibit our health in other areas related to our health and wellness. This discussion will focus specifically on the intersection of mental health and physical health, namely our weight goals.

First, I would like to encourage you to consider that what you weigh is less important that the composition of body fat and muscle. Second, the narrative that we hold about weight, fitness and dieting often impacts our sense of self, our emotions and whether we engage in unhealthy eating patterns.

We are socialized around food. When we have a bad day, we often reward ourselves with a favorite food. When we are bored, we eat, not for nourishment but to self soothe. When we are mourning the loss of a relationship or a loved one who has died, food is usually an offering of love and comfort. It makes sense that we utilize food to mask or cope with our feelings, boredom and other circumstances.

I want to be clear; food is not the issue. How we use food can be problematic and in opposition with our health-related goals.

When our mental health is compromised our motivation to create and hold boundaries with respect to food and exercise are also compromised. Click To Tweet

However, protein rich foods and exercise are known to:

  • Increase dopamine (the happy brain neurotransmitter)
  • Increase energy
  • Increase mood
  • Decrease anxiety
  • Increase sleep quality
  • Increase sexual libido
  • Increase concentration and memory and so much more.

We feel better when we give our body what it needs. Our body is geared towards survival. When we engage in caloric restriction and extreme fasting the body goes into survival mode because it is not sure when it will receive proper nourishment.

When I was grieving the death of my brother and grandfather, I ate my feelings. This often happens when we are navigating grief, depression, job loss, a breakup or other stressful life event, we turn to a trust coping mechanism: food. The sugar gives us an immediate high and instant gratification and then the cycle of shame, guilt and defeat repeats itself. It is hard to develop a habit of consistent meal prepping and exercise when our root issue isn’t physical or biological. If we want to disrupt this relationship with food, we have to address the root causes of the issue, which are often psychological and emotional.


Watch our FB LIVE FROM Sunday, September 20, 2020
& learn more about how to disrupt the bad relationship many of us have with food!! 

You can purchase Dr. Ajita’s Bestselling Book, The Gift of Grief: A Practical Guide on Navigating Grief & Loss here: ajitarobinson.com/book or on amazon.com.


  • Valerie McKenzey says:

    I’m looking forward to this live session. When I get stressed or if I’m going through something that is challenging me emotionally my food choices go to what is gratifying and I throw healthy options out the window. I need to change my relationship with food so that I can lead a healthy life.

  • Cynthia Griffin says:

    I would like to get a better understanding of my relationship with food. I’m not sure I’m an emotional eater but I will pour a glass of wine in the evening to relax. I do recognize celebrations and girlfriend meet ups are centered around food. Improper planning plays a key role in my unfavorable decisions in my food choices. Looking forward to Dr. Robinson’s Live.

  • Melita Mitchell says:

    I can’t wait to hear this session! My mentality has been the reason I overate in the past and when I changed it, it because the strength I needed to live a healthier life!

  • Tamara Noizy says:

    Thank you for this. I will be there.

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